How to deal with ‘setbacks’ in life

How are you traveling this week? Are you starting to feel that things are freeing up and you are moving forward? Your mind should be feeling more creative and you should be feeling another shift in yourself; wanting to get things done and to move ahead. There is a creative energy surrounding us, so be sure to capture those thoughts and turn them into action. Maybe have a pen and paper or Evernote ready to write your thoughts and ‘aha moments’ down. Even though there may be an energy surrounding us in getting us to move forward and helping us step more into our authentic self, setbacks can still occur.

So, I would like to use this opportunity to talk about set backs. Sometimes we think things are flowing and all is going to plan, and all of a sudden things crumble and it gets us down. We stop focusing on the positive things we are surrounded by and focus on the thing that are not moving the way we would like to. Unfortunately, in life we all come across setbacks and they can appear out of the blue. Or sometimes, we want things really quick and they don’t come as quick as we would like them to appear, which can occur as a setback or make us feel as if things are on hold.

Firstly, it is important to maybe have a look and see why they occur. We often go straight into ‘victim mode’ and ask, “Why me? Did this really have to happen to me?” Try to change your thought patterns and remove yourself from that emotion. It all comes down to awareness. Ask yourself, is this happening because this is not right for me, or do I need to have a look at my mindset and see what I am attracting. If it’s not right for you, you may need to re-assess the situation and have a look why it is blocking, and ask yourself if this is a re-occuring thing. If you often find yourself in similar situations and it is not working out, see if there is a better path for you.

If it’s a mindset situation have a think about what you are attracting. On the surface are you thinking, “oh, its all going great, is this for real” but deep down are you just waiting for that next bad thing to happen. Are you subconsciously telling yourself that “I can’t have it good”, that “something will occur that will set me back so I have to keep working hard”. Now is the time to start asking yourself about the root of this thought pattern. Did this come from your parent’s, siblings, friends, teachers….The list goes on. We are not born with this, that is for sure.

Anyway, food thought. But remember, you are in charge of your mind and the way you want to think and feel in the situations you are in. So, next time you are having a ‘setback’ in your life, see where it is coming from: is it your mind that’s attracting it, then look at how you can change that. Or is it something that occurs because it is not right, which means be creative and look for other ways?

To laugh or to cry?

To Laugh or To Cry?

We all experience moments where we feel that nothing is going the way we want. One moment we see new opportunities and doors opening up and all of a sudden they are closing again. This can leave us wondering why and what we could we have done differently. Our self worth goes down and we doubt ourselves. The question is, to laugh or to cry? We have moments where we get slowed down. That’s ok. We are allowed to feel what we feel. But, it does come down to you choosing how you want to handle and deal with the situation you are in. Do you want to be controlled by your negative feelings and emotions, or do you want to be in charge of your life and choose how you want to feel? Well, I believe you want to choose the latter ~ to be in control of your life! Go through your ups and downs! Don’t fall victim to your emotions and feel sorry for yourself! The only way to be in control of your life is to take action!

Stay in that moment! Explore your feelings ~ feel sad, disappointed and be upset!

It’s good to understand these emotions and explore them, but then take action and look ahead!

Listen to what your soul is telling you ~ just listen. It’s all within you ~ all your answers.

Take a moment to close your eyes and listen to your inner voice. You are in charge of your decisions!

What are your dreams? What are your desires? Write them down.

Make a plan to move towards your dreams and desires. New doors will start opening up to you and you will be on a new journey again.


And when you look back, it will all make sense as to why things didn’t work out the way you wanted.


To laugh or to cry?

The answer is both…then…go on ~ take action ~ NOW!

How to find your flow in life

How to find your flow in life and do things when you want to do them.

As kids we take on thoughts and beliefs from our parents, guardians and teachers. We are taught to live a life to a routine ~what is important and what is not, what comes first and what comes last.

It starts with little things; when you wake up in the morning, what to do first.   We often have been taught how to set a routine and we change it slightly when we become adults.


But do you really ever ask yourself if this what I want to do, when I want to things? Do you find yourself dreading to do certain things and chores?

It all starts by asking yourself “How do I feel? What works for me? When do I want to do things?”

If we choose to do something we enjoy doing first, we can start the day off by feeling great! Who is to say we need to do our chores first?

Why not do something nice when you wake up in the morning! Do some creative writing or just sit for a moment and be. Enjoy the moment of it being a new day, and it’s only just the beginning!


You can do what works for you, and you can choose how you want to create your days. Doesn’t that just make sense? We don’t really think about this. We just fall into a rut and do things without really thinking “is this actually working for me?”


So start creating your own flow! When you do, all of a sudden those little chores you have been putting off, and all the things you are supposed to do, no longer seem so bad.  Why? Because you have created your own flow, and you choose when and how you want to do things.


Write yourself a list. Think about all the things you want to do, and when you want to do them. This is great for indecisive people! You can create the routine that works for you.

It is important that we live a life that we are passionate about. Start bringing in the things into your life that you know are good for you and live them ~ and choose when and how.


Introduction to Discover yourself within “21 days, in 101 ways”

Introduction video for Nathalie’s eBook “discover yourself within 21 days in 101 ways”

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